PART I. THEM
I thought love was something that you found. I found it twice. At 19 I escaped a “normally dysfunctional” family (I say that because paternal abandonment, abuse, and alcohol are more normal in modern life) to marry the man who gave me my first orgasm. We had two children together before we divorced six years later. My second husband initially fit my pictures of the prince but was no longer after six years (again!) I just figured I found the wrong guys.
PART II. ME
In the emptiness and pain of separation, I was left to consider “who am I?” At 38, I defined myself as a twice divorced woman with two teenagers daughters in private school, no job, no alimony, or child support; I was good at some things – sculpting, cooking, celebrating, and selling. Making my way in the world would require a better definition than that. My challenge was to learn how to create an offer that brought my best selves together. So, I studied the philosophy of language – how we understand and create reality with our words and designed a 30-year career teaching corporate executives to do the same for themselves.
On a spiritual level, Who I Am is expressed by my beliefs about the world, other beings, and my values about what is good, and the point of life. Until I began asking questions, I never saw the ways I dishonored myself, others and Mother Earth. I had never learned about honor. In search of better understanding, I walked the medicine path of the Huichol Indians of central Mexico for almost two decades. They taught me to see the sacred interconnected web of life.
PART III. WE
While studying language, I fell (again) in love with a fellow student. As we learned from indigenous elders, we discovered the invisible dance. Bringing the worlds of language and spirit together, we have designed an increasingly juicy 30-year relationship. I didn’t find this love. I co-created it. This book captures our learning.